That's a question I'm seriously asking myself!
I've always thought of myself as odd I guess but I never realised how odd until the last few weeks.
As my readers will know, I've been bikeless for the last few weeks so I've been taking the bus which has meant a long wait at the bus stop some mornings. While waiting there a normally a couple of girls waiting for a bus at the same time, now these girls are pretty good looking (I use girls here to mean members of the female sex, not jail bait before anyone starts calling the cops).
While waiting for the bus I spend a long time watching the traffic and I have noticed nearly every single White Van man is turning about 110 degrees in their seats as they drive past to get maximum ogling time at the girls. I've noticed that the blokes driving BMW's do it as well but the remaining drivers either have girlfriends in the passenger seat or don't seem to notice at all and keep their eyes fixed straight ahead.
Now between WV man and BMW man, that accounts for about 80% of the blokes going past and it amazed me that they went to such lengths just to look at someone with all their clothes on.
It's a concept that is almost completely foreign to me. Sure I'll check girls out but lets face it, they are just girls standing on a pavement waiting for a bus. There needs to be something unusual to make me look for more than a second or two - like the promotion girls at the Bike Shows (bikers tell their significant other that they are going to look at bikes but it's really about the very attractive girls wearing very skimpy Lycra body suits)
Am I weird not to be doing everything I can to take a peek at anything which wears a bra? (um, that condition may need refinement)
I've always been aware that blokes tend to get a bit "look at the baps on that one" when in groups but I figured that was always group psychology and everyone trying fit in with everyone else (something else I've never really understood to be honest) which means that conversations tend to be a race to the bottom so that everyone can feel like they are part of the group but most of these blokes are in their cars/vans by themselves which suggests that it's something more important to most blokes than I realised.
I've never been a very blokey sort of bloke (I'm making this language up as I go). I don't have any interest in sports, drinking, cars, partying etc. Men Behaving Badly was just a 90's sitcom, not a guide to how blokes actually behave.
Now I understand a bit more why women don't like to walk home late at night by themselves (I always figured women were being wimps and blowing the risks way out of proportion to reality but if the drivers in St Neots are the standard - maybe they are right to be wary)
So the question is, am I in the minority on this issue? maybe I'm not sexually aware enough? or maybe I'm not socially aware enough, or maybe the 2 are intricately linked and a limitation in one is automatically a limitation in the other. Or maybe the blokes who drive past the bus stop at 7am are not representative of blokes in general.
Maybe it's cultural, are all the WV men Sun readers; trained via Page3 to always look at a women and wonder and since I don't read newspapers I've not picked up that trait?
I guess bus journeys bring out my philosophical side.
I don't normally write these messages for comments but I would be interested in what people think either as a comment or privately.
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